How couples can learn and support each other through communication and understanding, establishing appropriate boundaries, and healing from the impact of addiction and recovery.
Lies. Secrets, Resentment. These are issues you may be familiar with if addiction affects your relationship. Whether your partner is an addict, or you’re dealing with a substance abuse problem yourself, addiction can be one of the most challenging situations for a couple to endure. Exploring your role in your relationship and finding the courage to be honest with yourself and your loved one may prove to be difficult, but will allow for more support and understanding for both partners.
When dealing with addiction, it is often tempting to point the finger at the other person; however, taking personal responsibility for how we may be participating in the cycle of addiction is crucial. Codependent behaviors are often engaged in without one being fully conscious that they are in fact participating. Individual therapy is an effective way to identify codependent behaviors and gain insight into what is driving our participation in the cycle of addiction. When addiction dampens a couple’s ability to experience happiness, contentment, and even safety in a relationship, establishing and respecting personal boundaries is essential. A recovery program inclusive of individual and/or couples therapy and support groups such as AA, Al Anon, and ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) can foster self-discovery and enhance your ability to make personal changes to positively impact your relationship, and ultimately your well-being. Utilizing these tools to establish healthy boundaries, limit codependent behavior, and practice effective communication is likely to lead to a more supportive and fulfilling relationship with your loved one.
Please contact me for more information about the process of individual and/or couples therapy.
Sarah Callow-St. George has extensive experience helping her clients address and work through their trauma. She takes a special interest in working with couples and relationships. Addressing addiction issues and underlying trauma is key to changing the way we interact and connect with others.